Having a Happy Sexual Relationship
Sex is more than
just fun. Researchers have found that it can increase the sense of well – being , regulate hormones, burns calories, reduce pain and depression, and increase the sense of intimacy between a couple.
Here are some tips to "start the fire": Make a Sexy Call
Arouse your spouse's interest with a seductive call to his/her office. Use a gentle, low voice as you
explain what is in store for your partner. Flirt all you want but don't start talking about the kids, your families, money and the cat/dog. How to Dress
Men respond to visual
clues so it's more important for the woman to dress seductively. As sex shops are not found (at least, officially) in Malaysia, go to a good lingerie shop and try to imagine what your husband would
like to see you wear. Interestingly, when they shop alone, most men buy their wives or girlfriends a garter belt-lace bra combination in bright red or black. Women tend to go for spandex – based or satin
material because they feel sexy. Nothing too Heavy
A tasty but light meal is enough. By all means add a "luxurious" dish such as strawberries in cream – better still, nibble on oysters and
other foods reputed to increase feelings of sexiness. Have a glass of wine or champagne. Switch Off Those Lights!
Use soft lighting or dimmed lights to give that amber radiance to your
skin. White light, especially if the bulbs are greater than 40 watts, tends to make most women (those over 30 years anyway) look less attractive. Pick a Perfume
Feeling vampy? Pick a
scent with a little spice. Alternatively, pheromones — mammalian chemical triggers rumored (but never proved) to make men hot — are coming back. An example of a pheromone – based scent is Realm, a unisex
fragrance. Strangely enough, some men also seem to find the smell of baking (cakes, buns, etc.) a turn – on. Ask your man what he likes. Massage – Slowly !
Send the children to
their grandparents, take the phone off the hook, turn down the lights and clear your mind of deadlines, housework or office work. Have a warm, scented bath or shower (together) to set the stage for a
therapeutic, yet erotic massage.
Massage oils can be purchased at specialty shops like the Body Shop. Have your partner lie on his/her stomach, and either kneel beside
or straddle him/her across the lower back. Start the massage just below the head, your palms positioned on the shoulders and fingers pointing toward the spine. Slide your hands down his/her back
- you should have just enough oil to move smoothly over the skin. Lightly trail your fingers along his/her sides, spine and neck – and be prepared! |
